So this afternoon I had a hookup with this Carlos. He was bigger than what I thought, and he was hairy! lol I wasn't excepting that. But anyway, he told me "how to kiss", though people before him always told me I was a good kisser... But I guess I needed some improvements! :) Anyway, we had 20 minutes sex and then we talk for 45 minutes? or something like that, but we talked a lot.
For him, being in a monogamous relationship is good because it protects you from STDs. Then it's about showing to the other person that s/he is special. Open relationships are no good because they create rivalry between the two partners and etc. But it made me think a bit more. Maybe what I'm looking for isn't really an open relationship.
Sometimes I think that what I want is only a friend. A friend who will be living with me, spending a lot of time with me, etc. A friend I can love. But wait, that wouldn't be a friend anymore. Even if I don't have sex with that friend, it doesn't really matter to me, as long as I can love that person. But everyone out there think that a lover is someone you have sex with, and most people will think that a lover is the only person you should have sex with. Doesn't it show how stupid fucking values have been inserted into everyone's little brain in this crazy society?
So, as I always say, sex and love are two different things, and you don't need to have them together. But it's kinda hard to tell that to a society that has been making monogamous relationships its center. Cheating has this so bad connotation with it, not because it is bad, but because most people want to believe in Disney ugly movies. Wake up people, start looking at what's all around you and think by yourself, you'll find out that things aren't necessarily how you see them.
Good luck!
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