8/19 Would You Like Your Son to Be Gay?

So I was talking with Khanh the other day, and he asked me if I would like my son to be gay. Well, that's not my problem, I don't really give a shit. But what he was asking is that if I had a choice for my son to be straight (normal) or gay, what would I choose? Well I'm not the one to choose! lol But he answered he'd prefer him to be straight.

Why? Because being different is "bad" for a kid. Like the boy will have a troubled childhood or something. So he'd preferred if his son would be like everyone else...

Doesn't that show that Khanh doesn't like being gay? That he'd prefer not to have been through all of this and be normal like everyone else instead? Well yes.

But I'd like to go a step further here. When you think something is good or bad (he thinks being gay is bad) then when you are in one of the situation (he is on the "bad" side since he is gay), you get to believe you are indeed gay. So let me explain again: Think you are gay + gay is bad -> think you are in the bad category -> believe you are gay.

I am not saying this out of nowhere, I can easily see this psychological reaction from many other situations. Anyway, this is why I keep saying, with no rational proof, that beliefs are creating false ideas. Khanh believes he is gay. But he isn't. He just doesn't want to get detached from his belief that he is stuck in the bad category of people, the gay people. He has an attachment to this group of people. He believes he is "stuck" in a minority group, and has to live with it all his life. But in fact he is free of his decisions. He is free to like women just as much as men. But that would require losing faith in something that he proudly realized in his identity crisis.

So in some ways the only way to keep away from beliefs is probably to keep being critical about everything. And by doing that you realize much more about this world. And it does not only help yourself as a person, it helps others. It lets other people be free of being whoever they want. Just like there should be freedom of sexual choice for teenagers, and acceptance and encouragement of it by their parents.